How I approach life coaching, and who I am

Hello Everyone

My name is Richard Harris

It’s nice to meet you

Thank you for visiting my site. I wrote this page so you can find out a little bit more about my values and interests.

My Approach to Life Coaching and Personal Development

Since starting my coaching career in 2018, my approach to coaching has evolved a lot (as is always the way with anyone serious about their craft). Some tools I’ve dropped, and some tools have been added in. Coaching is always custom made to the client, but there are common threads…

I find all of my clients become happier when their physical and psychological foundations are strong. I always help clients build holistic health through excellent nutrition, exercise, cleansing, effective sleep, biohacking and others. Then looking at removing vices like porn, masturbation, drinking, addictive use of technology, bad use of recreational drugs and so on. Almost all clients learn how to identify narcissistic relationships, putting boundaries in place and heal from narcissistic abuse. I also help clients build their mind with robust psychological principles like solid accountability, goal setting, hypnosis and various excellent tools from Western positive psychology. We also work on lifestyle design and income generation.

Eventually coaching moves from the mere psychological to the spiritual, where clients discover their inner feeling of shame / wrongness / inferiority, which is extremely common in our society. Then, to learn to heal this shame by laddering out of the coping mechanisms (pride / codependency / neediness / objectification of others) and into love, self esteem, truth, respect, authenticity, freedom, self actualisation and a cultivation of virtue and higher spiritual principles. Through this journey, we become free of anxiety, our lives become full of meaning, and we open ourselves up to more exciting spiritual challenges.

This all takes place in a coaching framework of mutual respect and relentless pursuit of the truth. We integrate the Shadow and find our Soul, which is challenging but rewarding work.

Many coaches are effective at building power in the absence of love. To gain control or superiority over others by clever use of psychology, spirituality and science. This is a valid path through life, it does ‘work’, but it is explicitly not for me.

We are only able to see so far because we stand on the shoulders of giants. Being of geeky disposition I have studied a lot (…really a lot!) Out of decades of study and practice into personal development, a few practitioners and movements had a disproportionate impact on my work: Carl Jung (the hyper genius), Jordan Peterson, Stefan Hoeller, Western and Eastern esotericism, libertarianism and the Stoics. If you like any of those, then you should like my coaching.

The coaching system is, fundamentally, a strategic dialogue between the life coach and the client where ideas are reflected upon and goals are set. The life coach becomes an ally, a counsellor and an accountability partner.

How I Started Life Coaching

After becoming the most highly paid private tutor in the East of England, and running a tutoring agency, a growing sense of emptiness began eating away at me. Things seemed to be working, but I wasn’t happy. So, I put on my backpack and flew to South America to live the backpacker’s life. When one travels, there is a lot of time to think. Deep in thought across the Andes, I concluded that behind every business venture of the past 10 years was a compulsive study into personal development. My character, it seemed, was eternally wrapped around the question of how to live well. Personal development was what I was sneaking away to do when I knew I should be busy ‘being successful’. At last, I had found my passion. After 4 months of travel, I returned home. I collected a lifetime of work in personal development and psychology, and offered it to the world through the website you are reading now.

My Interests Outside of Personal Development

The things which make me the most happy are: taking long country walks with my closest friends, and debating the finer points of some wonderfully nuanced philosophy; thinking about personal development (we already covered that!); and travelling to some exotic and far away country – or at least when the odious tentacles of the state didn’t make travel so laborious.

I spend a lot of time in nature, especially at sacred sites. I enjoy cryptocurrencies, growing my own food and I am an active libertarian.

If you want to get a deeper feel for my character, take a look at my videos or livestreams on LBRY / Odysee. Those videos are pretty close to the real me.